You unlock your phone and open up Tinder. As Tinder loads you notice that there aren’t any new notifications, again. After that you will become aware of the fact that you’re not sure how to use Tinder to bring more women into your life.
And that’s frustrating…
It’s frustrating to have an empty Tinder account, but thankfully you can change that once you start using these simple Tinder secrets. As you read through these secrets you will learn how to use Tinder to efficiently and smoothly increase the number of matches and dates you go on (but because you realize you have to do well on the date, check out these free charisma killers so that you don’t make the mistakes that ruins your dates!)
Now read on for the Tinder secrets!
Understanding a Woman’s Perspective
When it comes to understanding how to use tinder to get more women, we have to start with their perspective.
And this is a typical woman’s perspective on Tinder:
Even somewhat cute women will be overrun with options. This means that we, as men, have to stand out from the crowd if we want success. And it makes sense when you stop to think about it. It’s only natural for there to be lots of other men besides you on Tinder, right? That means that your profile needs to stand out from all those other guys in order to get more matches and go on more dates. Because we need to stand out, not just on Tinder, but in real life as well we also need to learn how to trigger respect and attraction in the people we meet because otherwise even if we do get matches and dates from Tinder it won’t be able to go anywhere.
But back to the Tinder secrets!
Thankfully and truthfully, when you arm yourself with a little bit of knowledge you’ll realize that the bar isn’t set too high.
Which is great news for us! With just a little bit of effort, we can be one of the ‘lucky bastards’ that everyone looks at with envy!
And it all starts with ‘the rules’.
1. Follow The Rules
The first step on how to use Tinder and get more results is to work on your appearance. But not in the way that you think.
On Reddit, there’s a cliche thrown around constantly known as ‘the 2 rules’, and they are:
- Be Attractive
- Don’t Be Unattractive
It sounds depressing at first, but it’s actually the best thing for us!
The First Rule
The first rule is about taking care of your appearance. That means that you need a good haircut and if you’re into beards then maintain it. The reason for this is because you’ll realize just by looking at people that men and women are clearly different, but there are some similarities. One similarity being that both men and women like people who look good and another is both men and women like those who have learned how to charm people. And it’s only natural for you to like women who look good and have learned how to be charming as long as you recognize it’s the same for women; they like charming men who take care of their appearences.
It Also Means Hitting The Gym
And yes, it also means getting in shape and going to the gym while also eating a clean diet. You don’t have to be a bodybuilder by any means (unless that’s what you want, and there is a niche of women that love it). But you should strive to get leaner and healthier.
There’s a fantastic article on what women find as the most attractive male body type, click here to read it.
But here’s the watered down tl;dr version:
Find some kind of exercise that you enjoy doing and do it while also cleaning up your diet. You will naturally get a body type that women, on average, find the sexiest.
A body that looks fit and healthy, but doesn’t look like you obsess over it. Basically, if you look like you’re naturally in good shape, you’re winning.
2. Don’t Be Ugly By Accident
Just reading that sounds a little depressing, doesn’t it? Don’t worry, as you continue to read along you’ll become aware of the fact that it’s actually, honestly and truly an incredibly easy rule to follow 🙂
The first rule is about looking good, the second rule is about avoiding mistakes that destroy your chances and make you look ugly. One example would be what this entire Reddit subforum is dedicated to. Pretty girls making ugly faces.
Therefore, another way to interpret the second rule is to just present well and don’t get sloppy/lazy.
How to Succeed
What that means in action: would you go on a date with a gigantic pizza stain on your shirt?
The shirt, while clean, could be the most panty-dropping and sexy shirt on the planet. But with that pizza stain it makes anyone who wears it the ugliest person in the room. It will do this because people will only focus on the stain.
It’s like a giant, white zit right in the middle of our hypothetical guy’s forehead.
Likewise, in online dating and especially on Tinder, don’t put up photos of yourself with an accidental double chin (like the girls in the above thread). Just avoiding a double chin is following one of the rules.
In addition, don’t use grainy pictures like most guys that make you look like this:
General Tips to Get You Started:
- Quality beats everything
- It doesn’t matter how cool your new iPhone is, it’s not good enough. Put it down and get a real camera
- Puppies are a cheap, cheat code to win a woman’s heart
- Group pictures are a good thing, I call them ‘Social Shots’
- However, social pictures go at the very end of your photo lineup and there should only be a single one. People are on Tinder to look at beautiful people, not find Waldo
- No selfies
- Don’t lie in your photos, but do photoshop out temporary things like zits. That doesn’t mean photoshop out 25 pounds and don’t use pictures that are over two years old
- Be the person in your photos, and actually be in your photos
- Mix up your pictures. Don’t use the same outfit in more than a single photo
- Learn your good side and your angles. Then never take a disgustingly ugly picture again
- Get a body shot, a picture of your face engaging the camera and at least a single hobby picture
- Test everything
- Get her delirious with depraved desire for you:
The First Step in Becoming a Shamelessly Spellbinding Man:
Overall, the goal of online dating is to sell your life to a woman/women.
After that, your second goal, which is almost as important is to be as captivating as possible in your pictures.
That means how you present your life is important. Women want to join your amazing life, they don’t want to help you start one.
Since you’re still reading these secrets on how to use Tinder you should also be aware that you do want more women in your life and that’s okay. And since you want more women in your life you should click here to easily and naturally develop a deep, powerful and sexy voice that will trigger the attraction and respect that you desire.
Thought and Effort
There are a lot of bitter men out there because they don’t know how to use Tinder and it infuriates them.
It’s not because they don’t understand what they’re doing (though it does hurt them). It’s because they don’t put any thought or effort into their pictures.
And it shows.
They’re entitled and angry because they don’t put effort in and don’t understand why it doesn’t work.
Thankfully, you don’t have to be like those guys. Together, we’ll make sure you’re better 😉
3. Your Objective When Taking Pictures
This ties into both the next point about archetypes, as well as a few others. But as mentioned in the last point, your goal is to sell your life while looking panty-dropping good. That means that you should show examples of what you like to do and what dating you would be like.
The above is also true if you’re only going for one night stands, in which case you’ll show pictures that scream ‘USE ME FOR SEX AND NOTHING ELSE’. Girls that are interested will swipe right and girls that aren’t will swipe left.
Which means that you have to either be having fun in your pictures, or look happy in them, or in general; look like someone who believes in himself. After all, if you’re not happy then why would anyone want to be with you?
You don’t have to smile in every picture, because you should be preoccupied with whatever you’re doing in your pictures. But you do need to smile in pictures that you’re actively engaging the camera. Which is what I suggest you do during your portrait picture.
If you’re not engaged with the scene of your picture (like being in a sport, or hobby), then go ahead and engage the camera while smiling.
Happy people are terrific to be around whereas unhappy people make you want to stab yourself in the eye with a rusty fork.
If you look unhappy then you’re ugly by accident in your photos.
And besides, do you want to be around a woman that prefers to be around horrifically unhappy people? Or would you instead be concerned about such women?
4. What’s Your Archetype?
Archetypes are a stereotype of something, or a group of people as we will go over. Also known as your image.
First, there are many disgusting archetypes as well as sexy ones.
- ‘Nice Guy’
- Immature/gang side/etc. guy
- Mirror selfie douchecanoe
- Blatantly needy
- Successful Businessman
- Rock Star/Musician
- Free Spirit/Nomad/Traveler Type
- Ripped/Athlete (could even go as far as a bodybuilder)
- 007 Cool James Bond Dude
- Adventurer/Risk Taker
- Military Man
- Surfer/Vegan/Spiritual Type Guy
By no means a complete list, just some common examples to help you get started.
Every person will naturally gravitate to one or more different archetypes. What you want to do is focus on a primary one and have anything else in the background while eradicating any negative archetypes.
An Example of My Image:
As a photographer who enjoys adventuring around and taking pictures of people, the two archetypes that naturally fit my personality are the Artist and the Adventurer.
5. How to Use Tinder: Focus on What You Want
You might not have ever thought about this next point: but you also need to think about what you want from not just online dating and Tinder, but with women and your life in general.
If all you want are one night stands, you’ll have to use pictures that naturally appeal to women looking for a quick, raunchy fling.
On the other hand, if you want any kind of ongoing relationship (fuck buddies count) you’ll use pictures that appeal to the kind of women that think you’re amazing and who you find alluring.
This applies even if you want a serious relationship. You’ll take this even further by attempting to kick out women who don’t meet your criteria.
What’s Your Type?
In your pictures, you’ll want to think about the type of woman you want. Even if casual relationships are your goal you’ll still need to think about this.
The simple reason is because we all naturally have a type, and we all have a type that lusts after our type.
When thinking about what type you want, use pictures that are more likely to be her type as long as it’s still true to you. We all have different sides to us and it’s okay to only show one or two sides of yourself in your pictures.
That way, when a woman sees your profile she’ll either find you salaciously sexy or hideous.
Which makes your life a billion times easier and it doesn’t matter if you want a fuck buddy or a wife. It will help with both because it saves you so much time.
Because instead of playing a guessing game of if she likes you or not you can instead skip that deadly headache.
Using myself as an example again; the type of girls that I go for are the more artistic types, preferably the ones with a camera.
I’ve always liked those type of girls and they’ve always lusted after me. Most of the time these types of women also enjoy being out in nature. They like to travel and explore the world.
Therefore, my pictures are aimed at that type of woman like one of Cupid’s arrows.
They are what are known as ‘my target market’. Having them in mind makes my life easier when getting pictures done.
Not only that, but it’s part of who I am as a person.
This makes online dating ten times easier and even makes it fun! Because if dating isn’t fun for a guy, then he isn’t doing it right and doesn’t understand how to use Tinder to his advantage.
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UPDATE: This article is about getting matches, but not every match will reply. Here’s a simple secret to turn those pesky ghosts into dates