There she is, right in front of you, and she looks stunning! But there’s a problem… do you know how to get a girl to like you?
Because even if you have her interest now, you could lose it if you don’t know what to talk about with women. What to talk about to keep her spellbound with your masculine presence.
Which is what we’re going to cover today, so read on!
Perhaps you’re on a first date with her, or maybe you saw her across the way and felt your heart start racing a mile a minute. Not to mention the nerves that might have bubbled up to the surface along with your mouth getting dry and your palms getting sweaty.
Today, we’re going to conquer that fear so that you can turn it into excitement instead!
How to Conquer Your Fear of Talking to Women
If you want to know how to get a woman to like you, you’ll need to know what to talk about with her.
That way she will go from interested in you, to craving being around you (and if you need to develop that kind of sexy voice then click here).
Because many gullible guys make the same mistakes over and over when talking to women.
And if this has happened to you it’s okay. I’ve certainly been there and so have many other guys. It is, however, mission critical that we learn from our mistakes to start learning how to get a woman to like you.
What is this infuriatingly hateful and common mistake?
It’s having the same, boring conversations with women over and over, which is because most men haven’t learned how to smash through their comfort zone just yet.
Because of that, they have conversations like this one:
The Revoltingly Rampant Conversational Mistake:
Where are you from?
Oh cool, I’m from Nashville
Yea… so whattya like to do?
Can you feel how awkward that conversation is just by reading it?
It’s awful… and that’s how most conversations are. They’re just a half-step away from being a job interview…
Conversations like that are not how to get a girl to like you, they instead put you on the fast track to leading a loveless life.
But what should we do instead?
Conversations on How to Get a Girl to Like You:
A surprisingly easy way on how to get a girl to like you involves always thinking about the word ‘why’ like an annoying third grader.
Though you don’t want to actually say ‘why’ like a jackass, because that’s not how to get a girl to like you either.
But you do want to have that in the back of your mind when talking to women (and this helps a lot with people in general, not just women you think are drop dead gorgeous).
How to Get a Girl to Like You by Asking ‘Why?’
Let’s see the above conversation in action again when our pesky inner 3rd grader takes over.
Let’s assume you’re not in her home town, which is Chicago for this example (I’ll show you a similar conversation if you’re in her hometown in a second):
Where are you from?
Nashville, what made you want to move here?
School *quick note: this is a boring answer, so we want to get off of this subject and onto something else. However, this answer is very important because it allows you to easily come back to it later*
I see. Tell me, in this whole big world where you can go anywhere, where’s the one place you would go if you could go there for your school instead?
You don’t have to launch straight into the question about where would she go. Instead, if you want, you can ask her if she likes it here (here being Chicago in the example and what makes her stay out of all the places she could go).
In addition, you should be able to tell by her tone if she likes it or not. If she says it in a way that makes it sound like she hates it, make a note about it:
Sounds like you’d rather be somewhere else instead, tell me, in this whole big world…
This also works if she does like where she’s at:
Sounds like you love it here. Tell me, in this whole big world where you can go anywhere, would you still pick this place for your school or would you go somewhere else instead?
These are the kinds of conversations that dig down into who she is as a person. The kind of conversations that most people will never have with her, and this is how you get a girl to like you in conversation.
What Comes Next
From there you can take the conversation anywhere you need it to go leave her longing for more (just remember the best dating advice for men so you don’t get sucked into the blatant bullshit of the world). You can also come back to the school answer to do this exact same thing all over again.
While you don’t want to copy the exact wording, this is my example of a system that you can copy. A system that will allow you to learn far more about people in five minutes than most learn in a lifetime.
Almost like a scandalous superpower that most people will never know about.
Back to The Above Example
But let’s talk about what happened up there.
First off, school is a boring subject, and quite frankly, so is asking a girl where she’s from.
So why do we do it?
It’s small talk, and it’s an important and necessary evil to get to the good stuff.
What small talk allows us to do is to dig into what makes a girl tick. It allows us to ask about things that are far more important to her, like her hopes and her dreams and other motivations. It’s what you’ll do when you want become alluring to women and captivate them in your conversation.
- Quick Note: This also works on men as well, not just women
In the above example, once she tells you where she would like to travel to you can follow up with asking her what about that place charms her so much.
This gets into her motivations as a person and getting her talking about why she does what she does.
It also makes her emotionally invest in talking to you and brings up good emotions.
Cheekily Charming Her During Conversation
Say for instance that she launches into a story from her childhood about how she traveled to blank before and did all of this amazing stuff. She’s going to remember those emotions and she’s going to begin to associate those emotions to you.
It’s beyond the scope of this article, but it’s called anchoring.
This can also work even if you’re in her hometown, let’s look at the above example again:
Where are you from?
Nashville, what made you want to stay here?
My family lives here
And from there you can go back into talking about traveling and her experiences. You can also ask about her family later on.
- Note: if she gives you an enthusiastic answer you can do this same thing with why she wanted to stick around or moved to a place in particular. In the examples I’m assuming that she’s not excitedly talking about the answers she gave you
But if she does give you an excited response you can simply ask her about it:
Wow! You seem kind of excited! What makes you so excited about it?
Now, she might just be excited about the subject or she might be excited about you.
Both are awesome!
When she’s excited about the subject she’ll launch into a story about it.
If, however, she’s excited about you she’ll say something like “I don’t know”.
When you get a response like that then you have a big hint that she probably likes you and you can continue the above conversations the exact same way.
It’s also a green light to start getting her ferociously attracted to you.
Those were just examples about where she lives to get into travel and different experiences, but there are other things you can talk about as well.
Topics on How to Get a Girl to Like You
The best things that you can talk about with women are their hopes and dreams.
Talk about the experiences she’s had, her childhood memories or even just who she is as a person (which means her motivations for doing what she does).
In addition, you don’t want to forget to use statements and relate back to what you’re talking about otherwise it’ll start to feel like an interview. Examples in this article.
Just remember, start with dry, boring whatever questions and then follow up and dig deeper:
- Where do you work?
- Do you enjoy it?
- If yes, ask what their favorite part about it is. What about their least favorite part?
- If no, ask them what they would do and where they would do it if they got paid exactly the same thing they do now
- Where are you from?
- Oh is it true what they say about people there?
- That they’re all huge dorks (make sure they understand that you’re teasing!)
- Oh is it true what they say about people there?
- Tell me what 10 year old you was like. What were some of your hopes and dreams?
- What made you change and do what you’re doing now?
- Or, that’s so awesome that you stuck with it! I bet you faced a lot of challenges to get there
- When did you have your first kiss/lose your virginity?
- Always a guaranteed story there. Just follow-up with stuff like “I bet it was awful” or even “I bet you were both nervous as hell”
- Quick note: doing this in the first two minutes of conversation will get you labeled a creep. Just keep this one in your back pocket if you need it later on after she has started to enjoy talking to you
The main thing that you want is to get the other person talking about things that excite them! Then dig deep into the why of their answers because this is going to do two main things for you:
- They will become excited and attach those feelings onto you
- She will feel understood by you, which in turn allows her passionate feelings for you to grow
You can always go further into a subject by asking why (but do what I did above and draw it out a little bit, always asking someone why is incredibly annoying; mix in statements).
When you dig deeper into a subject always try to find out what their motivations/thoughts/emotions were as they were going through it. This alone can help create a bond with people in general.
Ask Why, But Don’t Forget to Tease
Something else you’ll want to get into the habit of doing is tease her every once in a while (like the everybody from blank is a huge dork example above).
Otherwise you’ll just be a one-trick pony at best, and at worst you’ll land in the friend zone. .
Here’s an example I had with a cashier today:
I don’t need a bag
*looking at the bag guy* He’s easy
*in a fun tone and obviously not serious* Hey now! I have standards ya’know! That hurts my feelz!
Clearly she meant that I was making their jobs easier, but I turned it around and ‘accidentally‘ misinterpreted it to mean that I’m a whore.
She got a big smile on her face as her jaw dropped *did this sexy guy really just say that?*
Meanwhile the bag guy loved it and started to play along:
Hey you don’t have to put his business out there like that.
He obviously knew I was joking and was playing along. She knew I was joking and she immensely enjoyed an exciting moment in her otherwise boring work day.
The interaction only lasted maybe five seconds but I made both of their days. And all I did was make a single teasing comment.
- Another Note: I’ve talked to this girl before. We’re not bff’s, but we’re not strangers. If we were complete strangers a sexual comment like this would be harder to pull off. Far from impossible, but not something that I would recommend for beginners. The reason is because beginners already have a lot to focus on and can forget to come off as playful instead of serious. Playful makes you look sexy, smoldering man whereas serious will make you seem like a creepy pervert that needs to be locked up
Tantalizingly Teasing in a Warm Way:
With teasing, you’re not trying to be an asshole. Instead you’re making little playful comments about otherwise insignificant things.
Teasing her about calling me a whore is okay. Telling her that her outfit sucks is too far into the asshole zone. Not going to work out with emotionally healthy women and not how you get a girl to like you.
Relate to With What She Tells You
I go into this a little bit more in the above article, which is linked here again for easy access.
But to take it to the next heavenly level you will want to relate to what she’s telling you with stories/statements/memories of your own.
This way it’s an exchange of information instead of her unloading her life story while you sit there like a rock. As always, you need balance when you do things.
Try not to get caught up in always either:
- Asking questions (which is what I, personally get caught up in because I find people so fascinating)
- Teasing or even
Keep Your Eyes on The Orgasmic Prize: How to Get a Girl to Like You
For a basic idea of what you’re trying to accomplish, it’s this: find out why she does the things that she does and then relate your own experiences with hers. While also teasing her every once in a while on what she says.
That way you relate to her while giving her pieces of yourself for her to ask you about and even remember later.
People like people that like and understand them. And it’s a neat cheat code if you can show the other person that you have similar worldviews/experiences because then they will feel like you understand them on a deeper level than almost anyone else ever will.
Keep Moving Forward
UPDATE: That’s the part of the conversation about what you should talk about. But here’s a follow-up article about how to get hypnotically, powerful voice that tempt women in the worst of ways and demands respect from other men